Maybe I’m wrong, but it seems like a lot of people around my age are too focused on dating and finding themselves a partner when they should be focusing on their career and grad school. Sure, its nice and all to have that special someone, but why make it a priority. I mean, what is it going to accomplish besides fulfilling gratification of pleasure and affection? Dates can be fun sometimes, but it will only lead to further distractions from important objectives.
I’m expressing all this because some of my friends feel that I need to back into the “scene”. They made it sound like women are a basic need for men and without it guys would remain unhappy. I told them there are more important things out there than dating and getting laid—You must be thinking, “REALLY?! There’s something far more important than getting laid?!”. No, there isn’t…is what i would be saying if i was still 16 and in high school! But, YES! For us unestablished postgraduates I feel that we should aspire to further our education and pave roads leading to our career goals and become established before we start looking for that life long partner.
Who knows, I might run into THAT girl tomorrow and get involved with her! Then this entire post would contradict everything I said and make me look like a hypocritical nut. But since I know that IT isn’t going to happen, I can continue criticizing dates, dating, and daters…I’m a hater. I’m hating on the concept because I’ve had great initial experiences that led to some of the worst experiences a human-being can face!… Such as her deliberately spilling sprite in my old Toyota! All I can do now is look back and treat it as a facetious meaningless memory.
Its reality. There are no perfect relationships. You can meet your dream girl but there will be conflicts—And that’s where it becomes interesting. You know you found that perfect partner when you guys are able to LISTEN to each other and make compromises that leave you both satisfied and happy. And in the process of compromising, one of you or both of you would have to make initial sacrifices to become content in the future. And when the dust settles, you two are still holding each others hands—That’s when you know you find that person.
And I feel pressured finding that person to fit in with the rest of my friends who are well-established in their relationships. Screw it. I’m not going to force myself to look until I’ve become established with my life first. God knows best.
Valentine’s Day is approaching and there will be a lot of kissing, hugging, fucking, and exchanging VD from all daters dating going on dates!